Why Imposter Syndrome Is So Bad
If you are determined to overcome imposter syndrome then you will need to use the right techniques and work on this consistently. There is no overnight miracle fix for imposter syndrome. When you know how bad imposter syndrome can be it will help to motivate you to take the necessary action to overcome it every day.
It brings a Flood of Negative Thoughts
Those that suffer from imposter syndrome will usually
experience a lot of negative thoughts each day. These thoughts will constantly
remind them that they are a fraud and have no place being where they are. Our
world is full of negativity and it is hard enough dealing with this. Imposter
syndrome just makes the situation worse.
Imposter Syndrome can cause Procrastination
One of the worst aspects of imposter syndrome is that it
usually causes a lot of self-doubt. You start to doubt your ability to perform
even the simplest of tasks. Complex tasks can scare you to death. When you are
scared of tackling something it is a lot more likely that you will put it off until
later. This is the start of procrastination.
We all procrastinate from time to time. But if you start to
do this regularly then this can be a symptom of imposter syndrome. A task may
overwhelm you and when you procrastinate it will make you feel a little better.
The pressure of not starting the task will be there in the background though so
it is not a good thing.
You will have too much Uncertainty
Your levels of uncertainty can rise dramatically if you are
experiencing imposter syndrome. It is natural to be uncertain sometimes, but if
you have too much uncertainty then you will find it difficult to make even the
simplest of decisions.
You can Miss Out on Opportunities
When you are usually feeling that you are not good enough
due to imposter syndrome you are more likely to miss out on opportunities when
they present themselves. These opportunities can be right under your nose and
you will not spot them.
You no longer know what you are capable of doing
A lot of people that experience imposter syndrome can end up
being unable to assess what they are capable of doing. Before, they may have
held the belief that they can do anything, but imposter syndrome has knocked
this out of them. This is a very serious problem caused by imposter syndrome in
our opinion.
Work Harder just to keep up
If you are always feeling like you are an imposter, you may
start to believe that you need to work much harder than other people do just to
keep up. The confidence that you had to do your job before has been eroded by
imposter syndrome and now everything is going to take you a lot longer to
complete.
Your Relationships can be affected by Imposter Syndrome
It is not unusual for imposter syndrome to start affecting
relationships that people have. You may start to believe that your partner can
do a lot better than being with you. In addition to this, you may find it hard
to form new relationships as imposter syndrome makes you feel that you have
nothing to offer the other person.
The Main Causes Of Imposter Syndrome
There will always be a reason for you to experience imposter
syndrome. It doesn’t just come out of nowhere. One thing that you need to know
right away is that imposter syndrome is not linked to any kind of modesty or
humility. Let’s take a look at the main causes of imposter syndrome.
Recalling Past Failures
We have all made mistakes and done things that we regret in
the past. If you dwell on these failures then this can bring on imposter
syndrome. Some people are continually haunted by their past and regularly think
about the mistakes they have made a long time ago.
Dwelling in the past is not a good thing to do. What is done
is done. The best way to deal with the past is to learn from it. Then you need
to let go. Constantly harping back to past negative events in your life can
cause you a lot of stress and anxiety.
People in your Life can Trigger Imposter Syndrome
Not all of your friends will support you all of the time.
The same can be true of work colleagues and even family members. Words are
extremely powerful, and if you hear the wrong things from the people around you
often enough this can bring on imposter syndrome.
Have you ever heard from anyone in your life that you are
useless? Perhaps you were told that you would never be a success? These are the
kind of comments that some people will internalize and obsess over. In some
cases, this can result in a person feeling that they are not worthy.
People like to belong to groups and there can be situations
where the dynamics of a group can cause imposter syndrome. If you decide that
you are going to be unique in some way and stand out from the crowd, other
group members may castigate you for this and make you feel insecure.
Childhood Limiting Beliefs
Your experiences from your childhood could be responsible for
the onset of imposter syndrome in later life. A lot of parents push their
children to do well and if they do not live up to expectations then there are
often negative consequences to this.
Another thing is that an authority figure in your life as a
child may have criticized you in such a way that it really left a mark. Being
told that you will never amount to anything can be devastating to a child. This
is especially true when it comes from parents or a teacher for example.
These days, there is a tendency for parents to “overprotect”
their children. Of course, parents need to protect their kids, but if they
overprotect them then they can grow up not knowing what to expect when they are
an adult.
A child that has never had to deal with any challenging situations
before can be really unprepared for the world. This can hit them hard and they
can be subjected to negative comments from other adults. In the worst cases
this can definitely trigger imposter syndrome.
You need to know what is causing Imposter Syndrome
In order for you to overcome imposter syndrome you need to
know what is causing it. It can be painful trying to figure this out but it is
worth the pain of doing this. Otherwise, you will only be treating the symptoms
and not getting to the root cause of the problem.
Who Can Suffer From Imposter Syndrome?
The answer to this is that anyone can suffer from imposter
syndrome. Your gender, race and background is unimportant. There is a myth that
females are more likely to suffer from imposter syndrome than males. Evidence
does not exist to support this. Imposter syndrome can be experienced by anyone
at any time.
Your Personality Traits can bring on Imposter Syndrome
There has been a lot of research into imposter syndrome and
one of the findings to date is that people with certain personality traits are
more prone to it than others are. One study found that people who are lazy are
more prone to imposter syndrome. The belief here is that lazy people are more
likely to have a lot of unfinished tasks which can make them think they are not
worthy.
Experts have also seen a link between those people that have
low self-esteem and imposter syndrome. This is not too much of a surprise as if
you do not have a good opinion of yourself then you are probably more likely to
feel like an imposter fairly often. Another link was found between neuroticism
and imposter syndrome in the studies.
People that have a strong Fear of Failure
It is natural for all of us to feel a bit apprehensive when
we are taking on new challenges. In some people, this manifests itself as a
strong fear of failure. People that have tried new things and failed a lot in
their past can develop this.
If you are someone that fears failure a lot of the time then
you are very likely to experience imposter syndrome. This can lead to high
levels of stress and anxiety which are no good for your health. You need to
take steps to overcome your fear of failure.
Have you Experienced Discrimination or Bias?
Anyone that has experienced discrimination or bias because
of their gender or race for example, can be more prone to suffering from
imposter syndrome. Even if you have not personally experienced any bias or
discrimination, just knowing that other people have can cause you to start
feeling that you do not fit in.
It is an unfortunate fact that stereotypes have formed over
many years for certain situations. This can be really prevalent in the
workplace for example. If you do not feel that you belong for whatever reason
then you are likely to feel like a fraud. When this becomes a regular thing
then you are definitely experiencing imposter syndrome.
Imposter Syndrome is in your Head
The reason that absolutely anyone can suffer from imposter
syndrome at any time is that it is all in the mind. This is both a good and bad
thing. Imposter syndrome starts with negative thoughts that will not go away
about you not being good enough or not belonging.
Why is this good news? Well, you are in control of your
thoughts. If you experience negative thoughts about being an imposter then you
can neutralize them with positive thoughts. In fact, mastering thought control
is one of the most effective things that you can do to overcome imposter syndrome.
It will also help you in many other areas of your life.
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