After the passing of my mother I found myself in a deep depression. I didn't want to continue to be active in this thing we call life. My motivation was gone along with her because as her caregiver what was I now to do? I felt lost. Also I was self employed running a business from my home office so I didn’t want to promote, network or make any sales. No sales meant no income. I knew I had to snap out of it but didn’t know where to begin. Being a private person I didn’t know how to ask for help.
It's years later and I still come across both men and women who go through stress, life struggles and still try to stay focused on top of their corporate game. More and more I read in the news that when the world feels like it is crumbling around you and you have no outlet you quit one way or another. You either quit your job, relationships or life.
Here are the five steps that I learned and hope that it helps someone.
1. Find your support. It can be your friends, family members or support groups to talk about whatever it is. You can also seek professional help by talking to a licensed therapist. Your primary doctor can give you referral; your employer should also have Employee Assistance Programs.
2. Self Care - doesn’t mean that you have to spend money going to a spa. It could be you picking time alone to read, meditate, pamper yourself by taking a long bath in Epsom salts, light scented candles, and if you want to get a massage go to a massage school where the cost will be nominal.
3. Exercise - when you’re stress or depressed taking long walks, going to the gym or downloading exercise videos where you can do them at home. I found an app where I can do mediation whenever I find the tension is building up. I have an app on my phone to record my steps and my goal is 10,000 daily. I feel so much better being outside enjoying the views.
4. Journal - reflection on your emotions by writing your thoughts down helps. Sometimes there are words you want to say that you can’t vocalize. There are feelings that I want to express and I have a journal next to my bed, one in my briefcase and I always take one with me on vacation. When I wrote my first book majority of my work came from my journal. I was later able to see how far I had advanced because there were times that I felt situations was unjust and when I had the courage to speak on them I was able to tell the dates, times and when incidents had happened.
5. Faith - no matter what faith you believe in having the belief that there will be a better day. When I was at my darkest moments crying, praying and reading my bible I was able to find comfort. Whenever I had self doubt I would hum a hymnal to take my mind off of the situation. I also had my church family praying with me. Not having to divulge what I was going through but knowing that I had a prayer partner at times had me to take the attention off of myself and focus on praying for them as well.
No matter what the situation is you’re never in it alone. I have talked to individuals who quit their jobs or have been fired from jobs and when they got another told me how relieved they were. If they had known at the time when they were crying at their desks at the old job that there was a brighter side.
Studies show that suicide rates are on the increase and people always say if only I knew the person was in crisis I could have helped. Your body will let you know when you have taken on too much by panic attacks, high blood pressure, heart attacks.
Relationships suffer because of lack of communication, money or constant arguing because the person they want to yell at they can't so the spouse takes the abuse.
If this blog reaches one person to let them know there are steps to keep you sane and that you’re not alone in this journey we call life. There is a better day I promise you.
Originally Published on the Blessed & Curvy Blog
About the Author
Patricia A. Saunders was born and raised in Connecticut before relocating to the San Francisco Bay Area nearly 27 years ago. She received her Master’s in Management from the University of Phoenix in 2011.
Patricia's work has been featured on a Coast to Coast Book Tour at the Los Angeles Times Festival of Books, Toronto Word On The Street, Sacramento Black Book Fair, Tucson Book Festival, Miami International Festival of Books and AARP Life@50+ Spring Convention.
Recently she was chosen among 100 authors from around the United States to participate in the Author’s Pavilion at the 2018 Congressional Black Caucus Convention in Washington, DC.
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